twobears Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 I think that marriage, even if you think it is a 'useless piece of paper', gives both partners certain legal rights doesn't it? I'm a bit hazy on the detail but I'm pretty sure there is no such thing as common law marriage and so you run the risk of not being allowed to see your partner if they become seriously ill and hospitalised. A bit extreme I know but it could happen if you were unlucky. Also, if one of you won the lottery and decided to run off with the au pair/tennis coach or whatever, wouldn't you have more rights if you were married? There again if you don't believe in marriage maybe there's nothing that would persuade you to get hitched? I like being married but I wouldn't have wanted a massive, 'look at us' type wedding. We had a lovely little civil wedding in a beautiful venue with only 5 guests and it was perfect for us 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coldel Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 I agree bears, it works for some not for others, I guess some people just don't see the point but I wouldn't validate that by just saying its a piece of paper. Certainly a whole lot more to it than that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sipar69 Posted October 22, 2014 Share Posted October 22, 2014 (edited) If people want to get married I say fair play to them but I wouldn't do it to protect my legal rights - that doesn't seem like a very meaningful reason. I do think that along with kids and a mortgage it's one of those things that SOME NOT ALL people have tended to do because it's 'the done thing' - just one of those things in life that people are automatically expected to do. Provided it's done for the right reasons and not rushed into - great - enjoy! Two bears - you are correct - marriage creates stronger legal rights in certain matters and also obligations to go with them. Edited October 22, 2014 by sipar69 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeilMH Posted October 23, 2014 Author Share Posted October 23, 2014 I have been monitoring the responses on Blatchat (Lotus and Caterham 7 owners) that prompted me to start this thread. Someone has just responded that he first met his wife in 1953. Their first proper date was at the 1957 Motor Show where his Dad's Porsche 356B was on display. They were married in 1964. Plus they still drive around in a Caterham 7. That's quite cool 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ponsonby Posted October 23, 2014 Share Posted October 23, 2014 14 years on second marriage. Can't remember first marriage, so painful emotionally and financially that it has been deleted from my memory. First wedding was a full blown affair - hated it. Second wedding was low key, civil wedding with just close relatives and mates and was a great day. I would never encourage anyone to spend a small fortune on all the pomp and circumstance, too stressful and really spoils the enjoyment. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lurch Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 Been married nearly 3 months. Best thing I have ever done. Best part of 6000. 2nd best amount of money I've spent ( the z bring 1st) Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coldel Posted October 24, 2014 Share Posted October 24, 2014 14 years on second marriage. Can't remember first marriage, so painful emotionally and financially that it has been deleted from my memory. First wedding was a full blown affair - hated it. Second wedding was low key, civil wedding with just close relatives and mates and was a great day. I would never encourage anyone to spend a small fortune on all the pomp and circumstance, too stressful and really spoils the enjoyment. We almost went this route then just canned it due to the instant expectations - everyone saying 'you HAVE to do this and you HAVE to do that' so we said sod it, close family and some friends and that is it. We thought people might get annoyed but it was fine, most people are in it for the party any way Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PiGFoetus Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 13 years married, 22 together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bodyboarder81 Posted October 26, 2014 Share Posted October 26, 2014 10 years married , 17 together ( when we were 16 ! ) Still head over heals in love Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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