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yea i guess i have got a bad outlook on girls to a degree but, im product of my environment.

 

i was cheated on by my ex, the typical o hes just an old friend etc etc and whilst i was out on jobs abroad she was riding other guys, turns out over the 3 years i was with i shared her with 3-4 guys with out knowing

Ive been single for 3-4 years now and watching friends relationships and over that time ive seen 10 friends get the same happen to them by there girlfriend partners aging this age range is 18-25, and all of them have ran off to your one of the categories grundy listed.

 

Also in that period ive spent time out at night clubs and about and either my brain is just picking up sub consciously but im sure if i strapped a go pro to my self or got some cctv footage you wind that the girls all seem to avoid normal regular guys and float to the druggys or people looking for a fight, as soon as a normal guy talks to them they tell them to jog on. Now as i say is this because there out with there mates and trying to level each other etc i dunno, Maybe its cambridge/north Herts area just have this but if grundy and other are seeing it im guessing not,

 

I dont mean to come over negative but if it all i see what else do i know?

 

 

 

I was told by an ex colleague it all works on a scale, which is silly but i can see his logic to a degree in it from what i see on a night out

 

say for example 10 is good 1 is bad

 

a number 5 girl will only accept a level 7 guy or above (so 2 levels of 'attractiveness' above them)

 

which means a level 5 guy highest possibility is a girl of level 3

 

No i know that sound horsemuck and i said the same till we went out in Cambridge and he proved it

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That picture you posted. You're doing EXACTLY the same, just about women. Who's going to want a woman hater as their boyfriend? You post it all over here and all over facebook, you basically have a billboard saying "WOMEN. AVOID ME."

 

As per grundys post its not an opinion, its what im seeing around me on a daily basis,

 

It's a twisted bitter opinion which is frankly, false. Where do you actually get out to MEET women? The internet is awash with stories, pictures and videos of idiot women, just like if you believed everything you read that we're a worse generation than the rather infamous one from the 1930's.

 

If you go out and meet real people in person, you'd have a far better time. All it takes is some patience and some effort.

 

Every day I see the same 4/5 girls/women (18-25, whatever that is :lol: ) on the bus, who with some time, could be a lovely potential girlfriend for someone. They all have jobs and moan about their friends not understanding they can't go out on the lash every night, they have bills to pay and whatever else. They're nice people, who don't want the men described above by Grundy!

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I met my current girlfriend online and we are very happy together and been together almost a year now. I met a few others from the same site (POF) and you do get some who aren't looking for the same things but I did meet a few nice ones. Keep at it and you'll fine a good one :)

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Great words of encouragement pjf1985 :thumbs:

 

StevoD, sorry but you are being silly now. Everyone has been in a bad relationship at some point but why let that define you or your attitude to the world? Let go of the bitterness you feel for your ex and start again. What's the point in punishing all the other women in the world for what your ex did? Ultimately you are only punishing yourself. Lose the attitude and start to be happy with your little universe. So what if you don't have a partner right now? Being happy and confident is reward in itself. Good luck if you try to change your life.

 

I think I have said enough now :)

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Great words of encouragement pjf1985 :thumbs:

 

StevoD, sorry but you are being silly now. Everyone has been in a bad relationship at some point but why let that define you or your attitude to the world? Let go of the bitterness you feel for your ex and start again. What's the point in punishing all the other women in the world for what your ex did? Ultimately you are only punishing yourself. Lose the attitude and start to be happy with your little universe. So what if you don't have a partner right now? Being happy and confident is reward in itself. Good luck if you try to change your life.

 

I think I have said enough now :)

 

ok so what about the other 10 mates who in the last 3 year had the same happen to them from regular girls? the Ex was the ignition granted but what i see around on a daily basis fuels the observation

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Sorry StevoD but your negativity is getting me down now so I'll leave you to it :wacko: You can't change the behaviour of other people but you can change the way that you act and feel. Up to you really ...

 

not thats fair enough, but you said it here in one,

 

'You can't change the behaviour of other people'

if the girls of our generations wanna do as grundy said there nothing we can do about it

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Sorry StevoD but your negativity is getting me down now so I'll leave you to it :wacko: You can't change the behaviour of other people but you can change the way that you act and feel. Up to you really ...

 

not thats fair enough, but you said it here in one,

 

'You can't change the behaviour of other people'

if the girls of our generations wanna do as grundy said there nothing we can do about it

 

Yes you can't change the behavior of some people but not everyone is the same. There's someone out there for everyone, you just got to find them!

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I was single for 2 years and couldnt bring myself to do the whole online thing. It's just cringe and I'd not be able to take anyone seriously that I met that way.

 

Ended up meeting someone in the real world this year and I'm glad I didnt bother with those sites.

 

That's really good :) I was the same, didn't want to use them but they're not all that bad. Actually recognised quite a few people I knew on there too who I wouldn't have expected to be on there lol. They might be a bit cringey but you get the chance to meet people you might not have the chance to meet in the real world.

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Also @ stevo... I had the same attitude for a long time mate and it got me nowhere.

 

I've met someone who has completely changed the way I think about relationships and regained my trust, their are still decent people out there, just few and far between unfortunately

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Also @ stevo... I had the same attitude for a long time mate and it got me nowhere.

 

I've met someone who has completely changed the way I think about relationships and regained my trust, their are still decent people out there, just few and far between unfortunately

 

is that why your nowhereboy :lol:

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Also @ stevo... I had the same attitude for a long time mate and it got me nowhere.

 

I've met someone who has completely changed the way I think about relationships and regained my trust, their are still decent people out there, just few and far between unfortunately

 

is that why your nowhereboy :lol:

 

haha I was waiting for someone to mention that! The name comes from the film based on john lennon actually :D

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I met my girlfriend over LinkedIn while I was at work - turned out we went to the same university, and I was only a year above her, we had plenty of friends in common but the 3-4 years we were at uni we never crossed paths!

 

Started small talk over LinkedIn messages about uni, etc. Found out each others interests and then exchanged numbers and arranged to meet up one evening. First meeting we stayed up until 4am just talking, talking, talking and getting to know each other.

 

Stayed friends for the next 4-5months and we both knew we liked each other but nothing happened during that time. I'd recently had my engagement broken off about 6 months previously so I wasn't really looking to jump back on the horse too soon. But after getting to know each other, I just plucked up the courage and asked if she wanted to be more than friends and here we are 27 months later going strong :)

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I met my girlfriend over LinkedIn while I was at work - turned out we went to the same university, and I was only a year above her, we had plenty of friends in common but the 3-4 years we were at uni we never crossed paths!

 

Started small talk over LinkedIn messages about uni, etc. Found out each others interests and then exchanged numbers and arranged to meet up one evening. First meeting we stayed up until 4am just talking, talking, talking and getting to know each other.

 

Stayed friends for the next 4-5months and we both knew we liked each other but nothing happened during that time. I'd recently had my engagement broken off about 6 months previously so I wasn't really looking to jump back on the horse too soon. But after getting to know each other, I just plucked up the courage and asked if she wanted to be more than friends and here we are 27 months later going strong :)

 

Difference is tho if im correct your far from a fat glasses wearing bucked teethed ugly MOFO lol

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I met my girlfriend over LinkedIn while I was at work - turned out we went to the same university, and I was only a year above her, we had plenty of friends in common but the 3-4 years we were at uni we never crossed paths!

 

Started small talk over LinkedIn messages about uni, etc. Found out each others interests and then exchanged numbers and arranged to meet up one evening. First meeting we stayed up until 4am just talking, talking, talking and getting to know each other.

 

Stayed friends for the next 4-5months and we both knew we liked each other but nothing happened during that time. I'd recently had my engagement broken off about 6 months previously so I wasn't really looking to jump back on the horse too soon. But after getting to know each other, I just plucked up the courage and asked if she wanted to be more than friends and here we are 27 months later going strong :)

 

Difference is tho if im correct your far from a fat glasses wearing bucked teethed ugly MOFO lol

 

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Verus

 

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I think that's part of the key thing, building a friendship foundation before a relationship starts

 

This is definitely a key ingredient ^^

 

One other benefit of online dating is that you know what the other person wants before meeting them, whether it be friends, for dating or if they want a relationship from it. This certainly makes things easier. Plus you know by being on dating sites if they are single (at least they should be haha) whereas in real life its sometimes hard to tell if someone is worth chasing or not.

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I think that's part of the key thing, building a friendship foundation before a relationship starts

 

This is definitely a key ingredient ^^

 

One other benefit of online dating is that you know what the other person wants before meeting them, whether it be friends, for dating or if they want a relationship from it. This certainly makes things easier. Plus you know by being on dating sites if they are single (at least they should be haha) whereas in real life its sometimes hard to tell if someone is worth chasing or not.

 

issue with online sites is you can banishing them form your possibility

with out even knowing them and then thats that its 100% about looks

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I met my girlfriend over LinkedIn while I was at work - turned out we went to the same university, and I was only a year above her, we had plenty of friends in common but the 3-4 years we were at uni we never crossed paths!

 

Started small talk over LinkedIn messages about uni, etc. Found out each others interests and then exchanged numbers and arranged to meet up one evening. First meeting we stayed up until 4am just talking, talking, talking and getting to know each other.

 

Stayed friends for the next 4-5months and we both knew we liked each other but nothing happened during that time. I'd recently had my engagement broken off about 6 months previously so I wasn't really looking to jump back on the horse too soon. But after getting to know each other, I just plucked up the courage and asked if she wanted to be more than friends and here we are 27 months later going strong :)

 

Difference is tho if im correct your far from a fat glasses wearing bucked teethed ugly MOFO lol

 

None of us are exactly oil paintings dude :lol: Although I do seem to remember that Chirag is pretty hench :lol:

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