ioneabee Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 My daughter (10 yrs old) is away in Dorset at the moment with the National Childrens Orchestra - incredible opportunity but she's dreadfully homesick and sobbing down the phone to us - is refusing to come home though its destroying me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave-350 Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 My daughter (10 yrs old) is away in Dorset at the moment with the National Childrens Orchestra - incredible opportunity but she's dreadfully homesick and sobbing down the phone to us - is refusing to come home though its destroying me How long left 'till she's back? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ioneabee Posted August 26, 2013 Author Share Posted August 26, 2013 (edited) Friday afternoon - 4 more sleeps dropped her off last friday Edited August 26, 2013 by ioneabee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HollowPoint Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 What does she play? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ioneabee Posted August 26, 2013 Author Share Posted August 26, 2013 (edited) percussion - gloc, timps, base drum, triangle, rattely things etc etc if you can hit it - she plays it i'll post a short clip of her practicing Edited August 26, 2013 by ioneabee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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djb55 Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 (edited) My daughter (10 yrs old) is away in Dorset at the moment with the National Childrens Orchestra - incredible opportunity but she's dreadfully homesick and sobbing down the phone to us - is refusing to come home though its destroying me What did you do to make her not want to come home ?? Edited August 26, 2013 by djb55 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ioneabee Posted August 26, 2013 Author Share Posted August 26, 2013 there's a concert at the end of the course, followed by another at the Symphany Hall, Birmingham with the whole of the youth Orchestra - she desparately wants to do these 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rtbiscuit Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 It will be hard but it will do her good to see it through to the end. It will make next time even easier. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ioneabee Posted August 26, 2013 Author Share Posted August 26, 2013 there will be NO next time - I can't stand it just waiting for the latest update - she rings around 3:30pm and then again at 7:30pm - its the 7:30 one thats (usually) the problem Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ioneabee Posted August 26, 2013 Author Share Posted August 26, 2013 dear god - the fire alarm went off today and thats scared her silly - frightened that her most loved cuddly toy (a little rabbit) plus the phone had gone up in smoke - it was just a false alarm in a different building - nowhere near her dorm I think the staff are getting exasperated now as well on a plus note (through the crying) after she rang last night (again sobbing) - she said she wasn't crying going to bed, they went playing games and she was quite happy talk about a sodding roller coaster - I now hate roller coasters Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gudzy Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 percussion - gloc, timps, base drum, triangle, rattely things etc etc if you can hit it - she plays it Are you sure she shouldn't be in the strings section? She seems to be playing on your heart strings quite well! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glrnet Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 Reminds me of this:- Hope she gets through it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ekona Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 there will be NO next time - I can't stand it just waiting for the latest update - she rings around 3:30pm and then again at 7:30pm - its the 7:30 one thats (usually) the problem Don't answer the 7:30pm one, it's just pandering to her. She's well supervised, clearly not hating it else she'd want to come home, and not speaking to her parents for one night isn't going to hurt her. Must be horrible for you to hear her so upset, but it desperately sounds like attention seeking to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dblock Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 there will be NO next time - I can't stand it just waiting for the latest update - she rings around 3:30pm and then again at 7:30pm - its the 7:30 one thats (usually) the problem Don't answer the 7:30pm one, it's just pandering to her. She's well supervised, clearly not hating it else she'd want to come home, and not speaking to her parents for one night isn't going to hurt her. Must be horrible for you to hear her so upset, but it desperately sounds like attention seeking to me. What is wrong with you. Best thing is he knows best and I bet you don't even have kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ekona Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 *sigh* No, I don't have kids. I still have an opinion, though. Just mentioned this to the wife, she reckons it might be an idea to speak to the staff there and get them to find an excuse for the 7:30pm call not to take place for one night, i.e. a film night, or no phones after 6pm or something. Get them to take her mind off building her up for that single phone call. So yeah, ignoring the call is probably a bit harsh, but breaking the cycle is a sound idea. She has a degree in child psychology and currently teaches primary level kids, if that allows her to have an opinion Dblock. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dblock Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 A degree means diddly squat. Being a parent doesn't make you know more but it would show you understand where he is coming from. Teaching kids is different to having them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ekona Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 I'm not getting into this with you. Being a good parent and being a good teacher are both important roles in bring up children, one is no good without the other. Just because you can breed and manage to get your kids to survive, doesn't automatically make a good parent. Not saying that ioneabee isn't a good parent though! Just saying in a more general term, is all. I've never refereed professional football, but I can still see a clear penalty when watching it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dblock Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 Don't get into as your wrong :-p. Being a teacher is a job. Being a parent is a responsibility. You have a bond with those kids which is unconditional. There is no doubt your misses is a great teacher but that doesn't automatically make you a great parent and vice versa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ekona Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 Is that not what I said? You should see some of the 'parents' at her school. Sub-human scum who couldn't care less about their kids, and see school as nothing more than free daycare. The only time the kids get any attention/affection is from the teachers, TAs and mid-day assistants. Jo regularly gets in early to make breakfast (nothing more complicated than toast) for one kid as otherwise they may not get fed as the mum regularly 'forgets' to make breakfast or lunch for the child. Obviously the school ends up picking up the tab for a cooked lunch, but even so... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dblock Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 I bet there are plenty of teachers in that school who have degrees and could care less. The degree doesn't make you good with kids your personality does. Also it's hard to make a decision when you are emotionally attached to such item. E.g. We should all drive super Eco diesels but we don't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ekona Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 Exactly. Being able to aim/open your legs doesn't automatically make you a good parent, either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dblock Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 I'm not saying it does but that's also an extreme side of it. Most people love there kids very much and seeing their kids in pain hurts them more than themselves being in pain. like the OP. I bet if he could feel upset instead of her he would do it. It's heartbreaking to see YOUR kid like that. When your a parent you will understand… Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Will370z Posted August 26, 2013 Share Posted August 26, 2013 Hope it all works out andy, as it will. Just one of the difficulties as the littleones grow up. Lots more of these situations to come. Not nice though when its a situation you have no control over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ioneabee Posted August 26, 2013 Author Share Posted August 26, 2013 I understand what your saying Dan - what should have happened from the outset is NO PHONES - you can ring your parents after say 3 or 4 days, once and thats it !! ignorance (on the whole) is bliss I used to be a scout leader - so know exactly whats going on there - she's having a ball, but once she speaks to us or settles down for the night - thats when it all kick off. Dblock 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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