MY meet? chill pill is in order mate
maybe JOINT is the key word here?
ie: both parties need to agree?
In fact not even that, MEMBERS need to voice what they want out of it so that a proper meet can be molded out of what members want, not just 1 or 2 people
my suggestion would be, once found date venue and activities as voted by members, to let it organise by 2 members who have got nothing to do with the 2 sites, although I find it difficult to see anyone coming forward tbh.
Appreciate other meets, but then again as P15 said, dates and locations won't be suitable for everyone, will they? so surely a starting point needs to be agreed somewhere