First thing id do is make sure you TALK about how your feeling with her, very important.
The key for me has always been compromise, yeah i spend a whole day detailing the car on our day off , but in turn i will make sure i make the effort another day for her, same with her if she does something that i enjoy or particularly want to do, i take it on the chin get on with it and i know i will get it back in return another time
Tom