I know these wheels are gone but I still have to disagree with this to some point due to my own personal feelings. The reason I don't agree with the buyer arranging their own courier is because it's so much hassle finding out times etc when the seller might be in, plus if the courier requires sizes and weights then the seller has to take those anyway and inform the buyer.
It's just mush easier for the seller to take any measurements required and get an online quote and then inform the buyer who can pay the additional costs. That way the seller can decide which time slots suit them etc, rather than the buyer having to get MORE info and then maybe having to make more contact to change it due to that time slot not being available etc etc.
just my 2 pence worth
thinks its more of a total loss thing
is the seller sell and ships hes responsible till in the hands of the buyer (shipping company loose £1k of wheel he has to refund it and chase the claim with company, and get a @*!# name on the forum as people jump on the scam wagon)
if the seller sells but on the grounds of (exworks) once the item is collected its not his responsibility so if the wheels get lost in transit/damage the buyer seller has no responsibility,
same as how alot of manufacturing company work once its on the lorry its not there problem so if the lorry burns crashes etc it doesn't have to replace the order FOC