Try owning one of these when your little 'un comes along
The wife had a Ford Focus, more than capable for a newborn and carrying all the gear you need - unless you or your wife have physical limitations, you do not need an SUV/4x4 to get one small child and their stuff around.
I ended up selling the VX220 and getting an R33 Skyline, as above where you mention its two doors but as long as you are in reasonable condition its pretty easy to get the kids in and out the back, especially when they are little, you just squat in the footwell at the back with the seat forwards to put in and remove said child, it's actually quite comfortable
Sensible money would be on a four door, maybe go for a Focus ST four door? We found the hatch back much more practical for putting stuff in than the saloon style boot as you can remove the parcel shelf to get larger items in (kids furniture, plastic baths, huge boxes with toys in which you will get for christmas and the like).